Friday, March 13, 2009

True Love Waits

Moments ago while visiting an online community I replied to a statement about adults being afraid to talk about sex. It's been a good while since I posted anything here, so I decided to share my answer with anyone who takes the time to stop by my blog. Thanks for that, by the way. You are so kind ;)

An expression of love between a man and a woman who are married, an act that helps them to develop intimacy with one another – this is why God created sex. It’s called “making love” and that is nothing to be ashamed of. But through the years mankind took it and twisted it every whichaway, calling it everything but the intimate connection it is meant to be. What God created has been distorted because the flesh (human nature) wants to live by its own standards; sometimes selfish, sometimes ignorant. Now sex seems to be something people are embarrassed about when it’s supposed to be a perfectly natural part of “married life”. This is not good. A person is a virgin by choice and there must be something wrong? This is not good. There are men who use sex to control women; degrade and hurt them, even. This is not good. There are women who use it to get what they want from a man, even in marriage. There is another word for that – prostitution. This is not good. Some parents don’t talk to their kids because they just don’t know how to go about it. Their parents didn’t talk to them, afterall. Or they may think it’s best to just avoid the subject so they won’t put ideas in their kids heads, not realizing that this one important conversation could help that son or daughter decide to wait until marriage the way God intended. True love is patient and kind and it does not seek to please itself (1 Corinthians 13) – in other words, true love waits. If someone would had explained that to me years ago I don’t believe I would have made choices I immediately regretted. Parents, please talk to your preteens and teens about sex. And if you don’t know what to say find someone who does. There are a lot of “True Love Waits” programs these days.